Taboo Words and Terrific Words
By
Bill Lampton, Ph.D.,
President of Championship Communication,
Gainesville, Georgia, U.S.A.
BillLampton[at]ExpertSpeaker.com
www.ExpertSpeaker.com
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You
have had it happen, I’m sure, possibly several times. You had an idea
that seemed perfectly suited for your organization, because job functions
would become more manageable, customers would respond favorably, your
brand recognition would increase, or profits would rise immediately. Full
of enthusiasm, you went to your supervisor to get her endorsement and
help. You offered your suggestion with clarity and conviction. The supervisor
nodded politely, then responded with a Taboo Word or phrase--at least
a word or phrase that should be taboo, because of the resulting impact
on creativity and innovation.
Here are examples of Taboo Words, along with responses you can make,
rather than passively accepting the boss’s decline:
THAT’S NOT IN OUR BUDGET. Your reply: “Yes, I’m aware of that. We set
the budget three months before I thought about this new direction. However,
during the five years I have been working here, I have noticed that we
have the flexibility to amend the budget during the fiscal year when the
organization will benefit. In fact, didn’t we establish a contingency
fund for that purpose? So will you endorse a budget amendment request,
and we can implement this new direction without delay?”
WE HAVE NEVER DONE IT THAT WAY BEFORE. Your reply: “No, we haven’t, and
my conversations with our group indicate that we have suffered from low
morale as a result. Our current policy, requiring that an employee must
perform all of his or her work in the office, implies that we don’t trust
our people when they are out of sight. So if we allow our employees to
establish a “virtual office” at home, and work there three days a week,
they will act like the professionals they are by remaining productive.
They’ll feel better about our company, too. My prediction: Every one of
them will become more productive.”
WE TRIED THAT FIVE YEARS AGO—DIDN’T WORK. Your reply: “Yes, I’m aware
of that. Yet we are a very different organization now. Our work force
has gained sophistication through the changes in computer software. Our
sales team has expanded. The CEO who came in a year ago has special talent
to help us accomplish what I have outlined. Sure, there were good reasons
why the plan didn’t work in 1998—and there are good reasons why it will
work well now.”
SOUNDS TOO RISKY. Your reply: “I can understand your concern. However,
didn’t some of our board members think we were being too risky when we
acquired two new companies five years ago? Remember how risky we thought
it was when we switched to that contact management system? Our organization
has stayed at the top of our industry because we have taken risks—not
stupid gambles, but intelligent risks that promised a good return.”
THE CEO WOULDN’T LIKE THAT APPROACH. Your reply: “You know, one of the
things I have noticed about John is that he is receptive to entrepreneurial
ideas. Remember when you and I recommended outsourcing our cafeteria food
services? We didn’t think he would go for it, yet he did. So I propose
that we let him decide for himself whether this idea suits him, instead
of merely assuming it won’t. Will you schedule an appointment with him
to discuss the plan?”
THE TIME ISN’T RIGHT—MAYBE NEXT YEAR. Your reply: “If you will look at
these figures I have prepared, you will see that the first year’s savings
to the company will come to at least half a million dollars. Do we really
want to wait a year to miss that much budget relief? Wouldn’t waiting
cost us that much money?”
WHERE DID YOU GET A WILD IDEA LIKE THAT? Your reply: “Well, this isn’t
something I thought up an hour ago, during my drive to work. I have had
input from several sources. First, our trade journals are pointing to
a trend in this direction. Here are copies of two related articles, written
by industry authorities you respect. Second, I have talked with our managers
in every division. Third, I bounced the idea around with the consultant
we have on retainer. I wouldn’t have come to you without that preparation.”
Don’t those Taboo Words sound all too familiar? You could add others
to the list (and your response):
“What makes you think that would work?” (You have your reasons ready.)
“Wouldn’t fit our corporate culture.” (You illustrate that it does.)
“We’ve got enough irons in the fire already. Can’t add anything else.”
(You explain that your idea brings relief to overburdened workers.)
So when you encounter Taboo Words, here is the antidote: Anticipate objections,
and state your rebuttal promptly, confidently, and with substantive information.
On the other side of the desk, those of us in supervisory positions should
recognize how severely Taboo Words discourage our people, killing their
initiative. Although we continue to expect, and ask for, documentation
for entrepreneurial ideas, we may want to re-examine some of the words
and phrases we’re accustomed to using.
Stated more positively, try these Terrific Words the next time someone
says, “I’ve got an idea to share with you”:
SOUNDS GOOD. BRING ME A WRITTEN SUMMARY LATER TODAY. This response encourages
the employee, and prompts her to organize her thoughts in writing. When
she returns, you will set aside a few minutes to review the proposal with
her.
GOOD IDEA. WILL YOU EXPLAIN IT AT TOMORROW’S STAFF MEETING? Not only
are you calling for more action, you are authorizing the entrepreneur
to make his case among his peers.
INTERESTING SUGGESTION. ARE OTHERS DOING THIS? Now you’ll get a larger
perspective, assuming the employee has done his homework.
MAYBE SO. WHAT’S THE FIRST STEP FOR GETTING STARTED? You are implying—correctly
so—that even the greatest ideas require a thorough game plan. Equally
important, you show you are willing to hear his plan.
LET ME ASK YOU A FEW QUESTIONS. Here, too, you sound open and fair. You
won’t say yes or no until you know more.
THAT’S PRETTY CREATIVE. Three short, powerful words that applaud the
employee’s assertiveness.
When you become known as a manager who welcomes fresh approaches—by avoiding
Taboo Words and championing Terrific Words—you will benefit tremendously,
and so will your organization.
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Bill Lampton, Ph.D., “Helps You Finish
in First Place,” through compelling communication and maximum motivation.
He wrote The Complete Communicator: Change Your Communication, Change
Your Life! BillLampton[at]ExpertSpeaker.com or www.ExpertSpeaker.com
Published - January 2006
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